Okay... I'm feeling a bit riskaaaaay! I really don't even know if I'm going to publish this for my blog followers... but let's see if I can be tasteful about a serious matter.
Lately, I have heard a LOT of my friends say the following... "man, our sex life sucks... he never tries anymore.... I wish he would go out of town and come back so that we could have some passionate sex... we just don't make love the way we used to... ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS... " lol...
So ... what do we do? First and foremost, this should be one of your TOP prayers request! And, this MUST be communicated to your husband!!
Over the past 3 months I have learned how important that part of our marriage is! This subject was definitely not talked about when I was growing up- I've always had a dirty/wordly opinion about the matter.... so I've been doing alot of studying up on it. It really started when our pastor did the challenge of "7 days of sex"- I'm sure you are all familiar but if not 'youtube' it.... anywho.... So let's stop complaing and fix the problem!
****************SEX IS A DUTY AS A HUSBAND/WIFE************
Women- stop depriving your husband! Stop using it as a reward... you are cheapening our GOD given blessing! Think about it... the only person that can satisfy your husband's sexual needs/desires is YOU! So look at it as a blessing, that you have that amazing powerful ability!
Get out of the rut that you are in!! Spice it up!!!
Okay, soo... you just aren't that into the act of it.... well, I KNOW you are into feeling sexy... it's part of being a women! Put some effort into it.. intice him. Send him a pic of yourself during the day, surprise him with a new lil outfit, etc.... you know what he likes!!! When you feel sexy- then the "mood" is more likely to follow!
The key is to put some effort into it. Of course, it helps when he makes an effort, but stop waiting around and FIX the problem!
**** and by spicing- this DEFINITELY does not include any type of porn! The only naked people should be you and your man!****************
I know this has to be said, because there was a time that the 'evil one' controlled my thoughts on this situation. And, porn was a way that I thought you could spice it up!
By adding porn into your bedroom- you are building the heighth of what "gets you going" up to a level that will be unattainable when you are only with your spouse. Does that make since? Okay here's an example... do you remember your first kiss. MAN, thats all you needed to feel warm and fuzzy... and over the years it takes a little more and a little more. Well, we should not take that level to watching pornography! - it's not what GOD wants us to do and it is like opening the door for satan to come into your life! --- okay enough on that.... OH BUT.. I did get the clear that it's okay to take pics/videos of just you and your man--- NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.. and... it'll give your hubby something to look at when he is feeling tempted to watch something on the net... --- which is a whole other matter!
So, let's recap!...
1. Communicate with your husband about your feeling on sex.. whatever it may be. And, both of your pray about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2. Stop waiting around for things to get better... you are "it" for him.. remind him how sexy you can be! and keep reminding him.. and keep reminding him.. :-)
3. NO porn.... of other people!
Okay, that's it for now...
My prayer request is that this motivates and inspires some of you married folks to 'get you groove on'!!!!
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NICE...... THAT IS A GREAT BLOG! ;-) & all very true... Love ya, H
ReplyDeleteWell put. One thing that I'd add is that as women it takes us an average of 20 minutes to "get in the mood" and men it is pretty much instantly. Men find emotion through sex and women find sex through emotion. Think about that for a minute. It'll sink in and click in just a minute. But seriously it's true, we aren't typically in the mood instantly so that's one reason why it's important to "romance" your hubby. 1) yes it makes you feel sexy 2) it makes him feel desired. If our men aren't feeling desired then they feel inadequate. Nothing is more of a self esteem booster for a man than to know that he is desired and that he can please his wife.
ReplyDeleteOkay enough, enough, good job on the wording of this sometimes touchy subject.
Nicole